Posts published on August 2015

5 Animations That Will Make You Better at Life

Emotional Intelligence

As a concept, emotional intelligence can seem a little abstract.

Most of us get it in theory, but it’s hard knowing what it looks like in real life. Luckily, the internet has an enormous amount of resources that can help us understand EQ better. We went ahead and did the hard work for you, going through the good, the bad, and the ugly EQ-related videos on YouTube to bring you this delightful list of informative and inspiring animations. Each of them will teach you about one of the five key components of emotional intelligence, and hopefully inspire you to grow. We hope you enjoy them!

Empathy

We’ve all tried to help a friend in need at some point in our lives. Problem is, most of us have been going about it in the wrong way. In this beautifully animated talk, Brené Brown explains the difference between offering sympathy and having empathy — and why the latter works best.

Self-regulation

Sometimes saying “no” to ourselves in the present is difficult, but it essential for our future happiness. In this cute little animation from Epipheo, Kelly McGonigal explains the different types of willpower that we need to overcome our daily desires, and how a little self-regulation can allow us to focus on what’s really important in our lives.

 Self-awareness

In order to make changes in your life, you need to understand your own emotions, and the strengths and limitations that go with them. This beautiful animation, produced by students from the Gobelins Film School, depicts one woman’s attempt to take control of her own life…and her imaginary crocodile!

Motivation

What motivates us to get up in the morning for work? According to Dan Pink in this wonderful short from RSA, it’s not the financial carrot on a stick that drives us forward, but something deep within ourselves.

Social skills

Social skills are a very visible part of emotional intelligence, and probably the most important to success.  Without social skills, we can’t build meaningful relationships with people, and we struggle to get ahead in our careers. Where our social skills come from, and how they develop is still up for debate, but according to this informative short from NPR, play could be the answer!


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5 Infallible Ways to Become Even More Likable

Connection, Social Skills

Loving and accepting yourself is paramount, but being someone others enjoy having around can also help make you happier and more successful.

A Harvard study suggests that, at work, being likable matters more than being smart or competent. Researchers found that most people prefer to work with someone they like than with someone they don’t like, even if the person they don’t like could do a better job.

Scientists also have solid evidence that strong social relationships — a direct result of being able to get along with people — has been proven to increase someone’s survival odds by 50%. That’s twice as much as exercise, and just as powerful as not smoking.

So, while it’s vitally important to have a positive self-esteem, the esteem of others’ goes a long way in your health, success and happiness too.

Now, how do you increase your people skills? Here are five strategies that have been proven to work:

Expect the best
Be a social optimist and expect that the new people you meet are going to love you. You will subconsciously be more open and warmer with those you are talking to, and of course, be much more approachable.

Pay Attention
Is someone talking to you? Then sit upright, put the phone away, and make eye contact. Giving people your undivided attention will make them feel important. And everybody likes to feel important.

Don’t Brag
Are you awesome? Have you just come back from a trip around the world? Good for you, but don’t tell everyone. Research shows that self-promotion tends to backfire, and that sharing stories of your incredible adventures may actually lead to people excluding you.

Ask For Advice
When you ask people for advice, it makes them feel like experts. Never miss an opportunity to ask others for tips, whether it’s for an upcoming trip, a great place to eat, or feedback here on Wonder. They’ll love it that you thought to ask them in the first place.

Be Curious
Dale Carnegie said, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested you.” So ask questions, try to really get to know people. They’ll be surprised (and delighted!) you want to know more about them.

Anaïs Nin: The Artist

Wonder Types

French author Anaïs Nin (1903-1977) sought to discover and grow as a woman and artist and to live her life to the fullest.

A prolific writer of diaries, she began her first at age eleven. She published a total of sixteen journals spanning more than fifty years of her life. Her heightened self-awareness is a result of an intense desire to listen her inner voice and understand her story.

Mirages: The Unexpurgated Diary of Anaïs Nin, 1939–1947

A woman not bound by the norms of her time, she pursued multiple, often simultaneous love affairs, including a torrid romance with the writer Henry Miller in the early 1930’s. Nin believed emotional excess made her more creative:

“Something is always born of excess: great art was born of great terrors, great loneliness, great inhibitions, instabilities, and it always balances them.”

With her heightened self-awareness and low self-regulation, she personifies the The Artist EQ Type.

On Wonder, we learn that:

Artists are sensitive souls who sometimes let their emotions get the best of them.

The Artist can teach The CoachThe High-Speed Racer, The Entertainer, and The Soldier to increase their self-awareness.

Nin’s number one formula was keeping a diary. “It was while writing a diary that I discovered how to capture the living moments,” she said. She also believed that new experiences and psychotherapy were valuable tools for learning about oneself.

The Artist can also inspire The BossThe DiplomatThe Soldier, and The Lone Wolf to let go of control, even if just a little.

Nin’s way was surrounding herself with young people, who reminded her of the importance of staying curious and taking risks. She also sought challenges and was never regretful or fearful of failure.

One of Nin’s most famous quotes is, “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”

Will You Reach Your Full Potential? Ask Yourself One Question To Find Out

Growth Mindset

Are people born smart or creative, or can they develop these traits over time?

How you answer this question says a lot about you. In fact, it determines how you approach challenges, and helps predict whether you will achieve your full potential or not.

If you think qualities like intelligence and creativity are carved in stone — you’re born with a certain amount and that amount stays the same throughout your lifetime — you’re doing yourself a huge disservice.

According to psychology professor Carol Dweck, the idea that you can’t change or improve (what she calls a “fixed mindset”) is the most powerful — and toxic — belief you can have.

“The fixed mindset creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over,” writes Dweck. A fixed-mindsetter who is considered smart may not admit when he doesn’t know the answer for fear of looking dumb. As a consequence, he misses out on opportunities for learning something new.

Dweck’s research shows that fixed-mindsetters live under the belief that talent is born, not made. When the picture they paint or the cake they bake doesn’t come out perfect on the first attempt, they conclude they just don’t have what it takes to master those skills. They see the need for practice as an evidence of incompetence, so they don’t allow themselves to fail until they succeed.

The fear of tackling challenges combined with a contempt for effort is a recipe for underachievement. Ultimately, a fixed mindset will hold you back from learning and growing.

If you want to do all that you were put on this world to do, you need to start thinking differently. Cultivate a growth mindset, and success — in the form of curiosity and contentment — will follow.

4 ways increasing your EQ can help your career

Emotional Intelligence

With so many technical skills you can learn to improve your performance at work, emotional intelligence might be at the bottom of your to-do list. But more and more studies show that investing in your EQ can actually help you advance in your career faster than, say, mastering Excel or learning to code. Here are five reasons why you should make increasing your emotional intelligence a top priority:

  1. It will make you more friends at work

Becoming more emotionally intelligent means increasing your empathy and social awareness —two skills that help you win more friends at the office. Think you don’t need friends at work? Think again. Research done by the OfficeVibe found that 70% of employees say friends at work is crucial to a happy working life. Employees that have a best friend at work are 137% more motivated to develop as a person and as a professional, and have a 35% higher commitment to quality.

  1. It will help you perform better in any job

Emotional intelligence plays a big role in your productivity —it’s what helps you meet that sales target in spite of your recent breakup, and quickly turn out an impeccable press release in the middle of a crisis. According to EQ experts Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves, EQ is responsible for 58 percent of performance in all types of jobs. “It’s the single biggest predictor of performance in the workplace and the strongest driver of leadership and personal excellence.”

  1. It will make you money

Emotional intelligence has been proven to help you bring home a bigger paycheck. According to Bradberry and Greaves, people with a high EQ make approximately $ 29,000 more per year. “The link between EQ and earnings is so direct that every point increase in EQ adds $ 1,300 to an annual salary. These findings hold true for people in all industries, at all levels, in every region of the world,” they wrote. Their thesis is supported by a recent study from the University of Bonn, which found that people who are good at recognizing emotions have an income that is “significantly higher”.

  1. It may land you the job

“CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise—and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence,” an executive told Daniel Goleman. Companies like Johnson & Johnson and L’Oreal have realized that hiring people with a high EQ saves them time and money in the long run, and so have incorporated emotional intelligence as a criteria in their recruiting processes. Even if the company you want to work for doesn’t assess emotional intelligence, having worked on your EQ skills will still pay off when you go on your job interview —self-awareness, self-regulation and social awareness will help you keep your cool and connect with your recruiters more easily.